Are you and your partner having trouble in communication and trusting each-other? Before you take any harsh decisions about your relationship, try to repair it. Studies shows that Relationship Therapy is very useful in restoring relation about 75% of the time. In starting phase it can sound ostentatious, but in reality going for relationship therapy is very healthy step towards making your relation strong and trustworthy.
What is Relationship Therapy?
Relationship Therapy is nothing but type of psychotherapy geared towards helping couple go through challenges and developing healthier ways to understand each-other. The therapist uses specific techniques and interventions to support couple’s goal.
Linda Carroll, MS, LMFT Marriage Counsellor, Say’s it’s about helping couples “Get unstuck form painful dynamics that keep getting repeated.”
When should You Go to the Relationship Therapy?
Research tells us that once a person is emotionally aroused to the point where the heart rate is over a hundred and three beats per minute. We are no longer able to hear what the other person is saying except for those words, which agree with what we think the other person is saying. In fact, sometimes when a couple is in this state of significant, emotional arousal, they will vehemently argue against each other. Both people see the other person as being completely wrong and they are both arguing for the exact same point.
If you are feeling stuck and not able to take hard decisions with jointly. If you are going through major stress in relationship like infidelity, financial strain, or trauma.
Not only problematic couples but healthy couples can get benefits from this therapy as it is an opportunity to improve communication and understanding between them. We have seen such couples who opt for this therapy to just make their good relationship better, stronger with new relationship skills.
Signs You Should Go for Relationship Therapy:
- Poor communication with your partner
- Feeling boredom about your relationship
- Indulging in the same fight over and over again without any resolution
- Feeling detached from your partner
- Considering a divorce or wondering if you should break up
- Feeling too attached to one another (codependency)
How Session Is Conducted?
At least initially both people in the relationship should attend the therapy. Generally, first session is more than about information gathering, meaningful aspect and issues are discussed at the early stage. The real therapy start from second session.
Counselling sessions are combination of several task, the very first task is to make you and your partner comfortable so that you can talk issues that are very personal and complex to discuss. A professional therapist have one session with both people and one session with each person. In individual sessions they shows that How they are relating to each other? How they are interacting with each other? Each person is able to state how they actually honestly feel about what is going on without the judgment of the other person.
Counsellor teach the couple how to communicate with each other gives exercises on how to listen to and hear what the other person is saying. After we have developed these communication strategies and both members of the couple have learned to utilize the basic communication strategies, we start exploring the issues. Where the couple is struggling with acrimony, when the couple is emotionally charged or emotionally aroused over any particular issue. Then each one speak to therapist while another one is sitting beside and listens the discussion and wait for clarification of listener. As the couple builds the skills to interact without being emotionally flooded, IE, emotionally, overwhelmed, and going into the fights, the arguments, counsellor step back and monitors how the couple discusses the situation.
At this point therapist ends their session with instructions to keep their relationship healthy and when to discuss the delicate topics on their own.